You really like somebody and have the feeling that the other person likes you as much. But, suddenly up crops a problem! You learn that a close friend also likes your ‘special’ person who is in turn, actually responding to the attention. So what’s to be done? Sacrifice love or forgo friendship?
Aruna Sharma, market analyst (name changed), says, “My friend actually poured a soft-drink over my head when we got into an argument over the same guy we liked. I found that my friend’s act just showed her insecurity. But I was happy because finally I got the guy,” she says.
According to Varkha Chulani, clinical psychologist and psychotherapist, “Women tend to be more catty about each other when it comes to sharing a liking for the same guy. Men are more practical in dealing with such matters, but if matters get out of hand then they can become very aggressive; that’s when murders happen.”
Rohit Varma had a very bad experience with one of his friends who tried to steal away his girl. “When this guy really showed he was desperately in love with her, I thought I’d sacrifice my love for my friend. But when I came to know he had a girlfriend, I was furious. My friendship with him couldn’t last,” he says.
Varkha informs that there is nothing wrong in showing your fondness for someone, despite the fact that your friend may also have the same feelings for the person. She says, “Neither party needs to pretend or make sacrifices. Once you have done your best in letting the other person know how much you like him or her, it’s totally up to that person to reciprocate or not. If he or she doesn’t prefer you, then you shouldn’t have hard feelings and move on with life.”
